All Hands On Deck: The Root of Our Troubles: Maintenance and Growth

All Hands On Deck: The Root of Our Troubles: Maintenance and Growth

Selfishness – self-centeredness!

That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

So, our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of our-selves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn’t think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! 

-Big Book pg.62

 

It’s an effort to discover the truth…

 

“Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of which is a personal housecleaning, which many of us had never attempted. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. Our liquor was but a symptom. So, we had to get down to causes and conditions.

Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. This was Step Four. A business which takes no regular inventory usually goes broke. Taking a commercial inventory is a fact-finding and a fact-facing process. It is an effort to discover the truth about the stock-in-trade. One object is to disclose damaged or unsalable goods, to get rid of them promptly and without regret. If the owner of the business is to be successful, he cannot fool himself about values.

We did exactly the same thing with our lives. We took stock honestly. First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure. Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had defeated us…”

from -How It Works

 

“Happiness is what we want, and we’ve decided that the big house or great success or making a big name will bring us happiness. There’s nothing wrong with wanting happiness. It’s just that we must examine whether a big house, or great success, or a big name will produce a deep sense of happiness and contentment. Isn’t it intelligent to question this?”

-Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

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