“There wasn’t a chance of making the outgoing love of St. Francis a workable and joyous way of life until these fatal and almost absolute dependencies were cut away.
“Because I had over the years undergone a little spiritual development, the absolute quality of these frightful dependencies had never before been so starkly revealed. Reinforced by what grace I could secure in prayer, I found I had to exert every ounce of will and action to cut off these faulty emotional dependencies upon people, upon AA, indeed, upon any set of circumstances whatsoever.Then only could I be free to love as Francis had. Emotional and instinctual satisfaction, I saw, were really the extra dividends of having love, offering love, and expressing a love appropriate to each relation of life.
“Plainly, I could never avail myself to God’s love until I was able to offer it back to him by loving others as he would have me. And I couldn’t possibly do that so long as I was victimized by false dependencies.”
-Bill W. Leter, January 1958